Theo Ford & Shawn Stolz are two beautiful men with acting and modeling careers, in love and married. For those who can’t survive a night at a club without jealousy, this interview is a guideline to learn how to keep it cool, live under the spotlights and be able to pursue a functioning relationship.
You are very well known in the community but for those who come across you for the first time, can you tell us a bit about yourselves?
Theo Ford. I am a Franco-Irish boy from the South East of Ireland. I spent the first 19 years of my life living in one of the most incredible countries in the world. Ireland is very Catholic but people are extremely accepting and they love difference. I was raised as a Quaker though. In this religion you learn to see everyone with an equal sight. No one is better than some one else. I felt a huge deal of love and compassion growing up. When I moved to Paris in 2007 after having done International relations in Dublin and started Fashion Design school in Paris I really started to become my own person. At which point I became attracted to the idea of starting porn. Only when I turned 25 did I start porn. This has been an incredible journey so far. Mostly incredibly positive especially due to the fact that quickly i wanted to inject my own personality into my porn person. I am very grounded but I dream big.
Shawn Stolz. My name is Shawn Stolz. I am 25years old I was born Los Angeles Ca and raised just north of LA. I moved back when I was 20 to pursue my hairstyling career. I worked in the industry under many amazing people and big names for 5 years. In those 5 years I also explored other dreams of mine such as underwear modeling.
How did your paths cross? Was it love at first sight?
Theo Ford. When I met Shawn I knew I wouldn’t ever let him go. He was so full of life and energy. My life was so incredibly hectic travelling across the world non-stop. I had no stability and that made it very hard to feel happy some days. Shawn brings me that stability and helps me have a structure in life. The day after our first date I flew Shawn to New York, I had a huge event there. We have been together ever since.
Shawn Stolz. We met on Theo’s World Tour while he was in Los Angeles. We had a few mutual friends in common such as Brandon Wilde who introduced us. It was love at first sight. Theo learned everything about me in the first two hours of us meeting. I felt so confident and like I could tell him anything and so I did.
Would you think that you’d be married today 10 years ago?
Theo Ford. I never knew when or how I would be married but I have always dreamt of getting married. Looking past gay marriage I knew I wanted to create a family, the family I lost when I was 16 when my parents split up and I was pretty much left to fend for myself.
Shawn Stolz. Yes. I have always wanted to get married and I think Theo and I share that in common. I have always dreamed of finding the man I want to spend the rest of my life with. I knew from day one this is the man I want to marry and also start a family with.
You are both very popular in the gay community. How do you deal with the attention you get?
Theo Ford. I guess you don’t become a porn actor and model in the hope to be anonymous. Being popular or famous isn’t really a goal in my eyes. You really cannot control how people will react to who you are. I am so lucky to do what I love to do and I have the most incredible fans and supporters.
Shawn Stolz. I wouldn’t consider myself popular. Working with Andrew Christian in Los Angeles opened a lot of doors for me and introduced me to many people that I have made wonderful connections with. It has helped me build myself up and build my name as a brand. It has opened many doors for me such as working in nightlife and also working for other underwear companies. I love the attention to be honest but I also want to make sure that I stay humble and I like to make a lasting impression on everyone I meet.
You probably get this question a lot but does jealousy ever become an issue in your relationship?
Theo Ford. Jealousy is part of life. All relationships hold some part of jealousy. The trick is to work on communication. That’s pretty much the only way it can work. No matter what your job is. Of course there is a huge part of myself i expose in my daily life working on set. But my true feelings and my heart belong to my husband.
S.S. Of course, with any relationship jealousy is always an obstacle to overcome. My husband is a famous pornstar. His success has made him wanted by more and more men every single day. I am lucky enough to have an amazing husband who can separate work from his personal life. Especially when his work is sex. Theo makes me feel so sexy and so confident so I know I have nothing to worry about.
Is there really a secret for a happy marriage?
Theo Ford. I am not sure if there is a secret to a happy marriage. You must just remember that you are a team. Nothing can happen without the other one involved. I work tirelessly to make mu husband happy and to give him all the love he needs. I know he loves to be with me so I do my best to bring him on all my trips.
Shawn Stolz. Communication is key in any relationship, especially with the line of work Theo does. For me I just like to be aware of what’s going on with my husband and our Marriage. Other than that I think the motto “happy wife happy life” is very true. For both ends. I try to do things on a daily basis to keep my husband happy. I appreciate and love my husband for everything he has done for me and everything he has given me especially for his love and compassion for my needs.
If you had to describe each other with three words, what would they be?
Theo Ford. Shawn is crazy, adorable and stubborn.
Shawn Stolz. My husband is INTELLIGENT, DETERMINED and absolutely BEAUTIFUL in every single way inside and out.
What’s the perfect day for Theo and Shawn?
Theo Ford. When I don’t have to run around or fly to another country for work I love to rest with Shawn. Cooking is one of our favorite past times. We just love to spend as much time as possible together. It really is so precious to have the time to be with one another especially when my job makes me travel so much.
Shawn Stolz. A perfect day for us I would say is waking up at Noon in each other arms. Pain au chocolat for breakfast, Gym, dinner and a movie. DATE NIGHT! We love to go to the cinema at least once or twice a week.
We are living in a time where everyone is so scared to take “the next step”. What would your advice be to them?
Theo Ford. I don’t actually believe in that statement. People are mostly more and more ego centric nowadays. We have les and les time to spend on others. Also with new technologies we happen to connect in different ways without making much efforts. And as I said being in a relationship is about efforts and looking at ways to make the other person happy. Being selfish is never a way to create relationships, in personal or professional life.
You do have to make that leap of faith and see what happens. If you lead you life in a safe manner you might also miss out on some amazing things!!
Shawn Stolz. Don’t be afraid to take risks and chances. Go with your gut and your heart will tell u if your making the right choice. To be honest people get nervous on their wedding days and I remember looking over at my friend Nicole 10mins before we were about to get married and I said “is it strange that I’m not nervous at all that I’m about to get married to a man I just met 3 weeks ago.” Lol I just really knew in my heart he was the one I wanted to spend the rest of my life with.
There is a big LGBT movement especially in the states right now. From marriage equality to Caitlyn Jenner’s activism debut, do you think that things are really getting better?
Theo Ford. Yes and no. Of course with new technologies and social medias the LGBT community is a lot more present. But we still see some horrific acts being committed around the world against people of the LGBT community. I guess fear and lack of understanding are sources of those acts. Education is the only answer to prevent this from continuing. Making people more aware of how differences are not always a bad thing. Being different and unique is very often a precious gift that needs to be harassed. Let’s just help things move in the right direction.
Shawn Stolz. Absolutely. The world as we know it is changing and starting to really accept the LGBT community and we are growing and becoming stronger.
Theo, we know that you are nominated to Hustaball’s Best Actor Award. How does it make you feel?
Theo Ford. It makes me feel happy of course but also very humbled. I know of so many people who might deserve that award too. I always try to give my best for every scene. I want to be proud of my work. So i’m glad all my efforts have been noticed. I have reached a level in the industry I never would have imagined when I started. It is crazy but i must say that work is the only answer. If you work hard enough you will reap the rewards. I am working very hard on a daily basis to achieve this goal.
Let’s talk about future. Any upcoming projects and/or/maybe children?
Theo Ford. We want to travel across the world some more. I believe that travelling is one of the best ways of educating yourself. I am working hard on my body too. Always trying to be the best I can be for my scenes and shoots. Also expanding my professional experiences through fashion, film making, writing. I have many projects in my head and I’ll do all I can to achieve them.
Shawn Stolz. I personally don’t have any big projects i am working on at the moment. Im always here to help and support Theo on all his big projects, interviews, photoshoots, and scenes shot. Im his personal hairstylist now so my big project is keeping his hair trending and on the cutting edge of fashion.
As for future plans we definitely want to have a child within the next three years. We both love children and have always wanted kids that’s also something we share in common. So we definitely have a child or children in our near future.
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